“Since I can’t join you for the party this Saturday evening, I want you to be wearing your chastity cock cage out. I am also disappointed you didn’t wear one of the thongs we got you today – I wanted you leaking precum in them while you were at work!” K randomly mentioned.
K is amazing and the things she says and does work on so many levels. Since 24/7 chastity is not realistic, we have found her choice for me in underwear can serve the same purpose. I found the article below helpful but the summary is here:
Submissive males crave control. They want you to run the show. By taking control of his penis and his orgasms it gives him a sense of purpose. Chastity is the first step in control. Control a man’s penis, you control the man and because we all know that sexuality and fetishes are 99% mental, the visual of his Goddess/Wife/Domme wearing the key to his device around her neck is a strong reminder of why this is being done in the first place. His whole world should be his mistress.
Male chastity is quickly becoming a very good way in which to train the focus of a submissive male. As we all know most men are somewhat obsessed with their penises. Not their fault really, it’s something they learn from a very young age. However it can be detrimental when it comes to keeping their focus on what’s most important….their mistress!
When men get sexually stimulated by any of their senses the automatic response is for them to touch themselves, one, because it feels good, and two because it has become a mindless reaction. Stimulation = dick. While that’s not a bad thing and I don’t want to give the impression that touching yourself is evil, when it comes to the training and reinforcing of the male submissive mind though, it’s a huge stumbling block.
A chastity device is primarily used to train a subs’ focus. By using a device, it stops the automatic response of touching and subsequently stimulation and relief. For example, a man gets sexually stimulated by seeing a beautiful woman on the television he goes to touch himself and clunk, hits the device and can’t follow through. It’s a type of cognitive behavioral therapy. When this is reinforced with the visual stimulation you want him to have it begins to turn his focus from outside stimulus to where it should be, on his mistress.
That’s the main premise of using a male chastity device but it goes even deeper than that. Submissive males crave control. They want you to run the show. By taking control of his penis and his orgasms it gives him a sense of purpose. Chastity is the first step in control. Control a man’s penis, you control the man and because we all know that sexuality and fetishes are 99% mental, the visual of his Goddess/Wife/Domme wearing the key to his device around her neck is a strong reminder of why this is being done in the first place. His whole world should be his mistress.
Is male chastity a necessity? I would have to say yes, if your ultimate goal is get your sub to stop concentrating on his pleasure and start zeroing in on yours