Diminishing masculinity is at the root of submission for a cuckold. There are many ways to extend or exercise that emasculation – preventing your boy from wearing masculine underwear can be a very effective one.
Panty wearing, among cuckolds, is most often associated with mouse-hung cuckolds – males whose equipment will actually fit into a woman’s panties without simply falling out as in the example above. Clearly his wife is in much need of the full sized cock of her lover.
Requiring a husband blessed with a dicklet to forego mens’ underwear in favor of panties serves to capitalize on his submission by not only giving him a physical symbol of his submission, but also makes it a visible, tangible expression others can appreciate.
I want to be clear about this: Don’t confuse this topic with cross-dressing or feminization. Feminization refers to a much more in-depth use of female clothing and behavior modifications. A cross-dresser is almost always a straight male who, for whatever reason, gets a thrill from dressing as a woman. This behavior may start with bit of lingerie including panties or pantyhose, but then progresses into outerwear as well.
I’m talking about having your outwardly masculine yet, privately cuckolded husband having to wear only panties of your choosing as his only option for underwear. This reminder of his status and lifestyle then reminds him constantly of not only his submission to you/your Dom, but of his failings or abdications of rights as a man and husband.
For some couples, the journey to cuckolding begins first with an exploration of the husband’s submission. Being that male ego is so closely tied to his genitals, they are the most effective path to his submission. Panties are such an outwardly physical sign of femininity that they have long been used to reflect shame on men by implying they’re wearing them when one chooses to criticize a male for less than masculine behavior. The natural thing, then, to deepen a male’s submission is to actually panty him.
Most pantied cuckolds may begin this experience having their penis pantied at home or during specific play periods, but will eventually transition to panties as their only form of underwear. As the cuckold’s submission becomes a more open aspect of the marriage, most women, even the very dominant ones, find they miss masculine companionship and the idea of taking a lover to enjoy a traditional sexual role becomes very attractive. This is especially true since it also serves to deepen the cuckold’s submission.
Other forms of asserting control over a male include forms of cock and ball torment, teasing and denial as well as bondage specific to his genitals.
A cuckold’s attention, particularly when his wife has a male guest, should always be focused on his wife and not on himself. Simply having your cuckold pantied in front of your lover isn’t going to keep your cuckold focused on you. You’ll still find him rubbing himself through his panties to enjoy the sensation or worse, you’ll see his hand inside the panties, stroking himself which is clearly much more about himself than his wife’s needs at the moment.
Take control of the cuckold’s penis
This is where chastity is effective. Enforced male chastity using any one of a number of devices to not only restrict him from masturbating himself, but even preventing the most basic of male freedoms: the erection. This provides full control of the cuckold’s penis for the wife, ensuring that the cuckold’s full attention is where it belongs. Some may choose to combine the two as the couple who submitted the pictures below does.
“Beth” and her husband have been living a Femdom lifestyle for some time now, she tells me. In the image to the left, you will see her cuckold both pantied and restrained. This is his ‘uniform’ while attending her while she entertains male guests.
Her husband was originally pantied as an expression of his submission and was already used to wearing them before Beth first began enjoying expressing her dominance by having her husband stand by and bear witness to her intimate couplings with another man. It became very clear, early on, that her cuckold had difficulty focusing on his service to his Mistress and instead rubbed himself rather unapologetically.
This has since been resolved with the use of a nice CB-3000 device which attaches around the base of the testicles and forces the penis into a clear acrylic tube with only a slit at the end for the cuckold to pee through. This slit also allows the expression of cuckold tears, the pre-cum developed by the cuckold’s excited penis despite being restricted from growing into an erection. Beth confirms that her cuckold cries considerable cuckold tears for her while restrained and bearing witness to her couplings.
You’ll also notice he’s been shaved smooth. This is something I wholeheartedly recommend for all cuckolds whether pantied or not. It’s essential for those cuckolds who are having their boy parts restrained for their own good, but is also highly recommended for pantied husbands since it just doesn’t make much sense to have man-hair in panties, does it? It also serves as an increased measure of contrast between a man in the marriage and the boy in the marriage.
Another recommendation is to consider having your cuckold slip on a non-lubed condom before pantying him in preparation for any play where you can expect him to spend extended periods erect for you. You could also use a woman’s sanitary pad, as they say, in his panties, to catch his cuckold tears as Beth does with her cuckold.
When the cuckold is naked, as I prefer, it’s easy to train the cuckold or his wife, to wipe the cuckold tears from his penis with a finger licked clean in his own mouth before the cuckold makes a mess, but when the wife is busy pleasuring another man’s cock and the cuckold is wearing frilly panties, it becomes quite unattractive to see pretty panties all soaked with cuckold’s tears.
My thanks to Beth and her cuckold for their contributions to this article.
The power of a strong, empowered, and committed woman knows no boundaries. While he is ultimately responsible for himself (she is not his fix or savior), she can be the difference between him having a life of aimless wandering, or a life of purpose.
Men require structure, rules, and objectives in order to feel valuable. This is why men have hierarchy in the military, management, relationships, politics, and community. They seek fulfillment by systemizing and channeling their energy through ritual, process, and roles. They need job descriptions and expectations because they are goal oriented, and their self-esteem is built or destroyed through their perceived ability to be ‘fully used’ as a tool and asset.
Most will not have the self-awareness to articulate that (so they act out of frustration), but watch any man in society who feels he lacks significant value to anyone or anything, and you will see a sad, broken, and bitter individual who will do anything to feel powerful – including, and especially hurting others.
In the end, every person wants to be wanted, loved, needed, and valued by others. We are pack animals, and this emotional need isn’t gender specific.
What is gender specific due to cultural conditioning and programming, is that men place most of their focus in tactical outcomes, whereas women place most of their self-esteem in strategic outcomes. One being short term, the other long.
This is a valuable and important dynamic, because we need both. Nothing is achieved without tactics, and nothing lasts without strategy. Neither is better or worse; just different. But when they work together, anything becomes possible and sustainable.
Empower your strategic side, by empowering his tactical side. Energize and fuel each other, so you can both become fully committed to giving the best of yourselves. In your difference, lies the strength.
Give him structure, give him focus, give him constructive feedback loops in a way that he experiences fulfillment of pride and ego through the act of serving you. Don’t look down on his sexualised nature of punishment, discipline, humiliation etc – these are just emotional and physical manifestations of someone who is craving (and lacking) structure and purpose. Look at it for what is really is, and not the superficiality of the kink.
When women powerfully channel their men from a ball of tangled wire, into a valuable cable, anything becomes possible. He wants to be utilised, and she wants an asset.
When women resent men because they think they should understand her, she gives away all her power to the man. She puts all her happiness in his hands.
When women learn how to empower, influence, and channel men — in a way that occurs to him as an opportunity to become fulfilled — she becomes the source of power. So much so, that he will put his happiness in helping her fulfill her end in mind.
Remember that leaders are never self-appointed. They are chosen because of the way they are being, not what they are doing. If you are having to remind people or claim that you are the leader, you aren’t it.
But why and what should you do about it? Don’t let jealousy and anger cause you to break up with the girl you love just because she is cheating on you with black men! That’s just stupid. Instead try to understand and accept it.
Why is she cheating?
Your penis is too small and you don’t last. Good sex requires a large cock and simply put you are not giving your girl the orgasms she deserves. You can’t do anything about your small penis but she can, that is, find black men with big cocks to fuck.
You might be satisfied with boring sex and masturbation but she isn’t. She needs real sex from real men. You can’t blame her for wanting to have a full sex life. You are not as tall, athletic, masculine or dominant as a black man can be. Do you even lift?
Interracial sex between white girls and black men is being promoted everywhere. Films, TV shows, advertisements, etc. Your girl will feel like she is missing out. Even if it’s subconscious at first, interracial sex fantasies will creep into her mind. You can blame whatever conspiracy you want but it is happening. It’s almost impossible for a normal person to fight against the billions of dollars being spent on this push.
Cheating is commonplace and the incidence is increasing. Girls tend to be open to cheating if their boyfriend or husband isn’t giving them what they need. Girls are discussing their sex life with each other, supporting and encouraging each other’s infidelity. Once one of them has gone black it won’t be long before the rest of them do. You don’t want your girl to be the only one in the group that isn’t cheating with hung black guys.
Websites and blogs are much more extreme that the mainstream media. Porn also of course. Girls are being exposed to this daily. The message they are getting is that not only is cheating acceptable, but that it’s desirable, and even that white boys secretly support it. The idea that going black is a sexy and hot way to spice up a relationship is gaining ground. Some girls even think their boyfriend or husband will be disappointed if he finds out they aren’t cheating with black men. Perversely her love for you could be the ultimate reason why she cheats black.
How to deal with it
Start using interracial porn. Avoid any porn with white men. You need to change your idea of sex from whatever it is now to big black cocks fucking white girls. Giving yourself orgasms to those images and videos helps to form a positive association. Many white girls already see getting blacked as the only real sex that counts and you need to think the same way.
Consume as much cuckold propaganda as possible. Just as with interracial porn use masturbation to train yourself to fall in line. Join in if you want. Help other white boys to understand.
Focus on her pleasure rather than being selfish. You love her so much that you want her to enjoy sex. Imagine her powerful orgasms pushing her into a state of bliss. Think about how happy and fulfilled she is.
Big cocks are hot. Stop denying this. You don’t watch porn with small penises. You want to see girls sucking and fucking big impressive cocks. You want to see big cum shots. Imagine her doing the sucking and fucking. Imagine those big loads pumped over her pretty face and breasts or inside her pussy and ass. So hot. It’s nowhere near as sexy if you replace those big black cocks with your unimpressive penis. Admit it: if you get off on masturbating to big cocks then it’s ok for her to fuck them.
She will start withholding sex from you, not because she doesn’t love you, but because sex with her black boyfriends is so much more satisfying. This is big hurdle to overcome but every cloud has a silver lining: it allows you to focus more on masturbation. It’s a virtuous circle as the more you do it the more you will accept her cheating and the lack of sex. You will learn to enjoy her coming back to you with a cum-filled pussy.
You are a good provider. Your hard work keeps her in the lifestyle that she deserves. Your money is buying all those sexy clothes and lingerie that she uses to seduce black men. Let yourself be turned on by that. When she models outfits for you imagine how hard it will make them and just how savagely they will ravish her. You should be proud of that.
The result
Your relationship will be radically improved. Both of you will be happy and sexually fulfilled. You will have great masturbation sessions while she is out having amazing sex with dominant black men behind your back. No more arguments, stress or frustration because of rubbish sex!
This girl speaks the truth!
The bottom line:
White girls: cuckold your bf/hubby/fiancé. Don’t waste your time with little white cock. Big Black Cock is superior!
White boys: accept it or she’ll do it behind your back anyway. Might as well enjoy it! Watching the real thing is better than porn. Happy wife = happy life.
