Stay strong in 2017

This was sent to me by a reader almost a year ago. I’ve lost his/her contact info, or I would credit them, but this image has always remained one of my favorites. This device fits him well. I believe when shopping for a long term chastity device, this is the fit you should be looking for. 

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Her foot, while relaxed on his limp useless cock, is a demonstration of her control. Her dominance. Her liberation. 

This is indeed a modern relationship that more and more couples are embracing. Accept this as the new norm. A growing number of women are enjoying the benefits of a Female Led Relationship, which I believe starts with Male Chastity
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Make it happen

As we say goodbye to 2017 and usher in a new year, there is no better time to to make fantasy reality. You’ve undoubtedly experimented and toyed with the idea of male chastity and have hopefully realized some of the benefits it brings. Now is the time to make it a real full time part of your relationship. I’ve mentioned before how chastity and orgasm control are the cornerstones top a successful Female Led Relationship. Join the thousands of other women who have turned fantasy play and part time fun, into a full time, permanent lifestyle. You’ve delayed it enough. Make the decision to change both of your lives for the better.

If you’re serious about making this happen, lock the cock tonight before the New Year begins. As you usher 2017 in he should be locked, shaved (if you prefer that, it sure helps him be more comfortable), and pantied. Put the key around your neck. Or on an anklet. As the ball drops and you have your first kiss of 2017 – you are doing so knowing that 2017 has the potential to be the year that roles are defined permanently. This can be a significant moment for both of you. A turning point. And if you are serious – there will be no going back. His submission to you will move from part time to permanent, Control of his cock is no longer an option for him. Make the decision. He should not even be able to achieve an erection, without your consent.

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Make sure you are both aware of the significance of that first New Year kiss and the few lingering moments as reality settles in. Fondle your key. Reinforce what he already knows. Be prepared for some difficult conversations. Some whining. Some complaints of pain or irritation. These are all obstacles that can and will be overcome. Celebrate his first 24 hours in chastity. It is truly a landmark occasion. Then his first week a huge achievement. A milestone indeed. Decide how often you want to permit an erection. What about an orgasm? Weekly? Monthly? Keep notes on his progress. You’ll soon learn when that sweet spot is. When does his submission to you max out? 

For most healthy and sexually active men, a monthly orgasm is reasonable. This doesn’t mean he can’t be released more often, but from here on out, those are your decisions, not his. 

Toss out or lock up any male underwear that he still may have. Watch his expression, his body language,his attitude as reality sets in for him. Explore and be aware of your own feelings. The feeling of power, authority, liberation. Be cognizant of the new spark in your relationship. Observe how the bond strengthens with each day. His love and admiration for you will grow, as will yours for him. 

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If you choose it to be, 2017 can be the year that all your wishes come true and you begin to mold your relationship into one you and thousand of other women have dreamed of. 

I wish you all a very happy New Years!

Contact

Hello everyone. I have gotten quite a few messages inquiring about FLR Coaching in real time. My original intent was to share the benefits of FLR’s through this blog, however, I am willing to speak with women or couples who are serious about pursuing this this lifestyle. No promises. I’m have no formal training or education in the area of relationship counseling, so I will only be sharing with you my experiences, opinions, and things I have soaked up from many years of online research. I’m not able to speak to all the single men out there, but can make time for a few women and couples. If interested, private message me and I’ll provide a secondary number that I maintain and we can go from there. 

Male chastity is the foundation of a Female Led Relationship (AKA: Modern Marriage)

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I’m starting to see more and more women walking around the office, stores, bars, restaurants, even the beach, with keys like this around their ankle or necklace. I give them a knowing grin as my own key dangles between my cleavage. Sometimes they are alone quietly enjoying themselves. Other times with friends, but more frequently then not they have their husband or boyfriend in tow. He’s usually walking a step behind her, listening to her, being attentive, carrying her bags, etc.. All the things you’ve read when you read about the benefits of male chastity. An astute observer will recognize the dynamic in play as more and more women are discovering the benefits of male chastity. You can see through her body language and her expressions that she exudes confidence and power. The experience for him is likely very humbling and degrading, but this is all part of learning his role and thriving in a Female Led Relationship.

I always wonder how many people understand the meaning and symbolism of the chastity key on display? How many others get it? While male chastity is rapidly growing in acceptance it is not yet mainstream. I believe male chastity to be the cornerstone of a Female Led Relationship. Through the power of the internet, social media, and various forums dedicated to this trending lifestyle, the practice of chastising males has grown exponentially in the last decade, as more and more women embrace matriarchy and enjoy the benefits of leading their men. There is no reason to think the growth of FLR’s won’t continue to spread and in the very new future, male chastity and the FLR’s will be the new normal of the “Modern Marriage”

With all that said, I encourage all women to research the benefits and strongly consider locking his cock and enjoying the harmony that accompany a Female Led Relationship. If you’ve already taken this step, wear the key to his cock proudly and confidently. Being a keyholder is a wonderful thing and others should know of the benefits it could provide them. Show off his obedience to your friends or other women you interact with on a daily basis. If is up to those of us that “get it” to promote this growing lifestyle.

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Reader question

Thank you for the wonderful blog. I’ve learned a lot from it. Over the past 18 months my husband and I have transitioned to a full FLR. There was some bumps on the road, but I am very satisfied with the way things have turned out. He does absolutely all the housework, doesn’t question my decisions, gives me wonderful foot massages, wears panties only, shave his cock and balls, and worships me orally whenever I want for as long as I want. As you have pointed out many times, chastity training is the key to a successful FLR. Hubby went from several releases a week to our current regime of one very three weeks – sometimes four. This seems to be just the right duration to keep him constantly obedient and void of any free will. I often employ the use of a chastity device that I hold the keys for. When we started he couldn’t wear the thing for 60 minutes without complaining of discomfort. Through patience and sheer determination I have regularly kept him locked for 24 hours at a time. 

Occasionally, usually when at the end of a three week chastity spell, I have had him go an entire weekend, Friday -Sunday locked tight. Denying not only orgasms, but even his ability to get hard is an absolute erotic power trip that words cannot describe. Our love making, especially during these locked weekends, is the best it’s ever been. Without the ability to achieve an erection his focus remains solely on his pleasuring his Queen. Any woman who is reading this blog and doubts the rewards that chastising your man can bring, try it once. you’ll never go back. 

With all that said, I do have a dilemma that I hope you can give me advice on. At the end of the month I will be going on a 4 day business trip. Hubby will be home alone. I am working on quite a long list of chores and some deep cleaning housework that will keep him busy, but I don’t totally trust him to not take advantage of the situation and play with his weak little cock. I will be gone during his third week of not cumming and I feel temptation to cheat and masturbate will be high. 

I would like to keep him locked for the entire four days, which would be a record for us, however, he has brought up concerns, like what if there was an emergency, medical or otherwise, and he really needed to get it off? I could leave a key hidden in the house somewhere, but I have read stories of men in similar situations who have turned a house upside down to find the hidden chastity key and whack their pathetic cocks off. I’d rather not risk that. What I need is a way to leave a key behind, so that in case of emergency I can grant him access BUT I need to be confident that there is no other way he can find the key himself. Again, 4 days locked would be a record, and I don’t think he has the willpower to do it himself. I don’t want to even allow him the temptation, but I also don’t want some dire emergency to come up and him not be able to remove the lock. What to do?

Sincerely, 

Kelly R. 

First Kelly, Thank you for all the kind words and I am so happy to hear of the progress you’ve made and am proud that FLRCoach has helped in some way. 

This is actually not an uncommon problem and I agree that you shouldn’t leave town for that amount of time without a backup plan just in case. While it is unlikely there will be a valid reason to remove the lock, better safe then sorry. Here’s a couple suggestions:

1 – Do you have a girlfriend who lives close by that you trust enough to hold the key? This would mean you’d have to confide in her the whole situation. She’ll likely get a kick out of it, but that’s a big step. In addition to solving the current dilemma, it will also add to his humiliation and deepen his submission to you. Imagine how he’d feel knowing another woman knows of his “status”. If that won’t work keep reading.

2 – Fill a tupperware with water. Put the key in it then put it in the freezer. Once it is frozen, take it out. Etch your initials or any other design into the ice, then put it back in the freezer. If an emergency happened, he could either smash the ice or melt the ice and get the key. Obviously, you’ll expect the frozen cube to be just as you left it when you get home. Because of the etching you put on the ice, you will know as soon as you got home if he cheated. 

3 – Similar to two, put the key in a regular envelope. Seal the envelope then melt wax over it. Take a picture of it with your phone. He will not be able to access the envelope without damaging the wax, and you’ll know as soon as he got home if he cheated. 

Best of luck. Let us know how everything went. 

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