Reader question

Thank you for the wonderful blog. I’ve learned a lot from it. Over the past 18 months my husband and I have transitioned to a full FLR. There was some bumps on the road, but I am very satisfied with the way things have turned out. He does absolutely all the housework, doesn’t question my decisions, gives me wonderful foot massages, wears panties only, shave his cock and balls, and worships me orally whenever I want for as long as I want. As you have pointed out many times, chastity training is the key to a successful FLR. Hubby went from several releases a week to our current regime of one very three weeks – sometimes four. This seems to be just the right duration to keep him constantly obedient and void of any free will. I often employ the use of a chastity device that I hold the keys for. When we started he couldn’t wear the thing for 60 minutes without complaining of discomfort. Through patience and sheer determination I have regularly kept him locked for 24 hours at a time. 

Occasionally, usually when at the end of a three week chastity spell, I have had him go an entire weekend, Friday -Sunday locked tight. Denying not only orgasms, but even his ability to get hard is an absolute erotic power trip that words cannot describe. Our love making, especially during these locked weekends, is the best it’s ever been. Without the ability to achieve an erection his focus remains solely on his pleasuring his Queen. Any woman who is reading this blog and doubts the rewards that chastising your man can bring, try it once. you’ll never go back. 

With all that said, I do have a dilemma that I hope you can give me advice on. At the end of the month I will be going on a 4 day business trip. Hubby will be home alone. I am working on quite a long list of chores and some deep cleaning housework that will keep him busy, but I don’t totally trust him to not take advantage of the situation and play with his weak little cock. I will be gone during his third week of not cumming and I feel temptation to cheat and masturbate will be high. 

I would like to keep him locked for the entire four days, which would be a record for us, however, he has brought up concerns, like what if there was an emergency, medical or otherwise, and he really needed to get it off? I could leave a key hidden in the house somewhere, but I have read stories of men in similar situations who have turned a house upside down to find the hidden chastity key and whack their pathetic cocks off. I’d rather not risk that. What I need is a way to leave a key behind, so that in case of emergency I can grant him access BUT I need to be confident that there is no other way he can find the key himself. Again, 4 days locked would be a record, and I don’t think he has the willpower to do it himself. I don’t want to even allow him the temptation, but I also don’t want some dire emergency to come up and him not be able to remove the lock. What to do?

Sincerely, 

Kelly R. 

First Kelly, Thank you for all the kind words and I am so happy to hear of the progress you’ve made and am proud that FLRCoach has helped in some way. 

This is actually not an uncommon problem and I agree that you shouldn’t leave town for that amount of time without a backup plan just in case. While it is unlikely there will be a valid reason to remove the lock, better safe then sorry. Here’s a couple suggestions:

1 – Do you have a girlfriend who lives close by that you trust enough to hold the key? This would mean you’d have to confide in her the whole situation. She’ll likely get a kick out of it, but that’s a big step. In addition to solving the current dilemma, it will also add to his humiliation and deepen his submission to you. Imagine how he’d feel knowing another woman knows of his “status”. If that won’t work keep reading.

2 – Fill a tupperware with water. Put the key in it then put it in the freezer. Once it is frozen, take it out. Etch your initials or any other design into the ice, then put it back in the freezer. If an emergency happened, he could either smash the ice or melt the ice and get the key. Obviously, you’ll expect the frozen cube to be just as you left it when you get home. Because of the etching you put on the ice, you will know as soon as you got home if he cheated. 

3 – Similar to two, put the key in a regular envelope. Seal the envelope then melt wax over it. Take a picture of it with your phone. He will not be able to access the envelope without damaging the wax, and you’ll know as soon as he got home if he cheated. 

Best of luck. Let us know how everything went. 

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