December, 2016 | Mean Wife FLR

Make it happen

As we say goodbye to 2017 and usher in a new year, there is no better time to to make fantasy reality. You’ve undoubtedly experimented and toyed with the idea of male chastity and have hopefully realized some of the benefits it brings. Now is the time to make it a real full time part of your relationship. I’ve mentioned before how chastity and orgasm control are the cornerstones top a successful Female Led Relationship. Join the thousands of other women who have turned fantasy play and part time fun, into a full time, permanent lifestyle. You’ve delayed it enough. Make the decision to change both of your lives for the better.

If you’re serious about making this happen, lock the cock tonight before the New Year begins. As you usher 2017 in he should be locked, shaved (if you prefer that, it sure helps him be more comfortable), and pantied. Put the key around your neck. Or on an anklet. As the ball drops and you have your first kiss of 2017 – you are doing so knowing that 2017 has the potential to be the year that roles are defined permanently. This can be a significant moment for both of you. A turning point. And if you are serious – there will be no going back. His submission to you will move from part time to permanent, Control of his cock is no longer an option for him. Make the decision. He should not even be able to achieve an erection, without your consent.

Make sure you are both aware of the significance of that first New Year kiss and the few lingering moments as reality settles in. Fondle your key. Reinforce what he already knows. Be prepared for some difficult conversations. Some whining. Some complaints of pain or irritation. These are all obstacles that can and will be overcome. Celebrate his first 24 hours in chastity. It is truly a landmark occasion. Then his first week a huge achievement. A milestone indeed. Decide how often you want to permit an erection. What about an orgasm? Weekly? Monthly? Keep notes on his progress. You’ll soon learn when that sweet spot is. When does his submission to you max out?

For most healthy and sexually active men, a monthly orgasm is reasonable. This doesn’t mean he can’t be released more often, but from here on out, those are your decisions, not his.

Toss out or lock up any male underwear that he still may have. Watch his expression, his body language,his attitude as reality sets in for him. Explore and be aware of your own feelings. The feeling of power, authority, liberation. Be cognizant of the new spark in your relationship. Observe how the bond strengthens with each day. His love and admiration for you will grow, as will yours for him.

If you choose it to be, 2017 can be the year that all your wishes come true and you begin to mold your relationship into one you and thousand of other women have dreamed of.

I wish you all a very happy New Years!

From Fetlife user kbangz

“Since I can’t join you for the party this Saturday evening, I want you to be wearing your chastity cock cage out. I am also disappointed you didn’t wear one of the thongs we got you today – I wanted you leaking precum in them while you were at work!” K randomly mentioned.

K is amazing and the things she says and does work on so many levels. Since 24/7 chastity is not realistic, we have found her choice for me in underwear can serve the same purpose. I found the article below helpful but the summary is here:

Submissive males crave control. They want you to run the show. By taking control of his penis and his orgasms it gives him a sense of purpose. Chastity is the first step in control. Control a man’s penis, you control the man and because we all know that sexuality and fetishes are 99% mental, the visual of his Goddess/Wife/Domme wearing the key to his device around her neck is a strong reminder of why this is being done in the first place. His whole world should be his mistress.

Male chastity is quickly becoming a very good way in which to train the focus of a submissive male. As we all know most men are somewhat obsessed with their penises. Not their fault really, it’s something they learn from a very young age. However it can be detrimental when it comes to keeping their focus on what’s most important….their mistress!

When men get sexually stimulated by any of their senses the automatic response is for them to touch themselves, one, because it feels good, and two because it has become a mindless reaction. Stimulation = dick. While that’s not a bad thing and I don’t want to give the impression that touching yourself is evil, when it comes to the training and reinforcing of the male submissive mind though, it’s a huge stumbling block.

A chastity device is primarily used to train a subs’ focus. By using a device, it stops the automatic response of touching and subsequently stimulation and relief. For example, a man gets sexually stimulated by seeing a beautiful woman on the television he goes to touch himself and clunk, hits the device and can’t follow through. It’s a type of cognitive behavioral therapy. When this is reinforced with the visual stimulation you want him to have it begins to turn his focus from outside stimulus to where it should be, on his mistress.

That’s the main premise of using a male chastity device but it goes even deeper than that. Submissive males crave control. They want you to run the show. By taking control of his penis and his orgasms it gives him a sense of purpose. Chastity is the first step in control. Control a man’s penis, you control the man and because we all know that sexuality and fetishes are 99% mental, the visual of his Goddess/Wife/Domme wearing the key to his device around her neck is a strong reminder of why this is being done in the first place. His whole world should be his mistress.

Is male chastity a necessity? I would have to say yes, if your ultimate goal is get your sub to stop concentrating on his pleasure and start zeroing in on yours

benefits of cuckold in chastity

Found this blog post on Fetlife:

I realize I have been rather needy in the attention department, but I want to solely focus on my Queen.

The Cuckold Has More Time to Get Things Done

A cuckold loves that his wife fucks other men. It turns him on like nothing ever has, which is why he suggested that his wife begin having sex outside the marriage in the first place. A cuckold can’t help but masturbate when she’s on dates, getting fucked in hotel rooms, having a quickie in the marital bed, and whenever she’s out of the house. To be a cuckold is to be in a constant state of arousal at the thought of another man inside his wife. That also means he wastes a great deal of time stroking his penis and being placed in chastity frees up all of that time. He may find upwards of a dozen hours added to his week that can be used for more productive tasks.

A Keyholder Keeps Her Cuckold Constantly Aroused

Those unfamiliar with the cuckold chastity lifestyle often assume that once the cock is locked away the wife does nothing with it, but that’s simply untrue. She gains control of the cuckold’s orgasms once she becomes his keyholder and thus she gains complete control of him. However, the only way she maintains that control is by keeping her cuckold aroused. It’s a key part of putting a cuckold in chastity and it’s equally delightful and painful for her husband. Each day, and sometimes all day long, the cuck is teased with sensual touching, his wife flaunting her scantily clad body around the house, and more. She might give him edging handjobs before putting him back in chastity or whisper into his ear about how she’s going to fuck another man in just a few hours and he’s going to cum in her pussy. To be chastised is a dream come true for a cuck husband.

A Chastised Cuckold Focuses on His Keyholder’s Pleasure

Service to others provides the greatest satisfaction in life and a cuckold in chastity learns this lesson quickly. After just a short time with his cock locked up he becomes devoted to his wife and finds immense pleasure in seeing to her needs. That can mean foot massages, cooking dinner, drawing baths and washing her as she soaks in the warm water, or worshipping her pussy constantly as she now feels free to be concerned only for her pleasure.

Chastity Makes for a Truly Happy Cuckold Marriage

Every cuckold couple that begins a chastity practice reports a much happier marriage. This is because both members of the marriage find far greater satisfaction with their roles so clearly defined. The cuckold, who is naturally submissive, delights in being of service to his wife’s every need and she delights in taking control and having her husband so focused on her needs. At the same time, she better understands his need to submit and to see her have sex with other people and she concentrates her efforts on better giving him what he wants. Like any good relationship, both parties get exactly what they want even if it seems imbalanced from the outside. Both the chastised cuckold and his wife are in tune with each other’s needs and work exceptionally hard to meet them, creating a stronger, more beautiful union between them.

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BENEFITS

Most agree that a man who practices chastity is expressing profound respect for his girl. It is not easy for him to start or endure.

1. It prevents him from masturbating. Male masturbation is a filthy habit. It’s addictive, selfish, and disrespectful to women. Chronic masturbation has the effect of substantially diminishing a man’s natural sexual desire for his wife of girlfriend. It unfortunately teaches him that his orgasm is primary, and hers is secondary.

2. Because he can’t even get an erection without her permission, it instantly changes the dynamics of the relationship.

3. It keeps his sexual focus and energy on his wife or girlfriend.

4. He will invest in bling, sex toys, whatever he can think of that will turn you on.

5. It helps prepares him for the eventuality of anal penetration, and getting the strap-on. Because his penis isn’t being sexually stimulated, it has the effect of gradually turning other parts of his body into erogenous zones, particularly his anus and his prostate. With patience and persistence, he can be trained to orgasm from stimulation in that region via your finger, or the strap-on.

6. If he’s never been an ass-eater, after having his penis locked up for a few weeks, he will be.

7. It serves as a constant reminder to him of her authority. His submission is deepened and if she plays it right he will worship the ground she walks on.

8. Because it makes his orgasms entirely dependent on her generosity, it forces him him to honor her, respect her, and motivates him to please.

9. It gives him the time and opportunity to substantially improve and perfect his oral skills. And her a chance to learn what she really likes.

10. It reinforces the idea that pussy is a precious gift that must be earned, and is to be savored and appreciated on those rare occasions when he does get it.

11. It teaches him that sexual activity with his wife or girlfriend doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with his penis.

12. It will significantly improve his attitude, and make him more generous, caring, kind, respectful, and loving. It will help soften the sharper edges of his me-first masculinity. It will make him more of a listener than a talker.

13. if his orgasms are consistently controlled and severely restricted, he will eventually get to the point where he will do just about anything to cum. You’ll be amazed by what he’ll do for you.

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doyouwantthetoporbottom:

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1. You are not punishing your man – you are protecting him from his perfectly normal lack of self-control.

2. You are not denying him sexual pleasure. In fact, when you do release him from his male chastity belt, sex will feel better for him and his orgasms will become much more intense.

3. You are not denying yourself the sex life you deserve. While he’s locked up he’ll use his mouth and fingers to provide you with sexual satisfaction on a regular basis. And, there are ways that you have satisfying penetrative sex while he is still under lock and key.

4. Men will try to claim they need to have regular orgasms to stay healthy. This simply isn’t true. They do need to have ejaculations every so often; but you can make this happen in a matter of minutes without him getting an erection or having an orgasm.

5. Hundreds of thousands of married couples are in the male chastity lifestyle. It’s not kinky. In fact, the odds are that several of your friends already have their husband’s crown jewels locked away.

6. When done correctly, your man will feel more loved by you than he did before male chastity became a part of your life. In fact, most men eventually thank their wives for insisting on the lifestyle.

7. While at first you’ll only keep him locked up for a few days at a time, eventually he should be restricted to eight to 12 orgasms a year. This is more than enough.

8. Over time he’ll start to feel like more of a man, because he’ll know that all of his sexual energy is going towards pleasing you. He’ll like the fact that he no longer feels like a little boy who can’t help but play with his little pee-pee when you are not looking. Instead, he will be saving himself for you!

Good reading…