Month: August 2016

Couples frequently start experimenting with male chastity at home for fun and to add a little spice to their sex lives. More and more often the wife or girlfriend quickly recognizes the benefits of locking their man and begin to insisting on longer durations of chastity. This is often more then he bargained for, but once she has gotten a taste of the power, the control, and the servitude brought on by male chastity, it is unlikely that his objections will overcome her desires or that she will ever accept a non chaste relationship with him. This is how it began for us and many others. What started out as bedroom play will evolve into a lifestyle. One that she leads, both in and out of the bedroom. 

For the men that find themselves in this situation my advice is to just accept and go with it. Once she has experienced the changes that chastity brings out in a man, there is no turning back for her. It is okay to have apprehensions, but continued reluctance to comply with her wishes will eventually result in an ultimatum “Wear it or the relationship is over”. It can be a very difficult time in the relationship, or it can be a the best thing that ever happened. The only choice left is to abandon the relationship or learn to be obedient.

This is the point of no return.

Your life will be easier when you accept chastity and your relationship will flourish. You will take pride in yourself as you overcome each hurdle. Your first 24 hours being locked is a milestone that should be celebrated. Then she should shoot for three full days. Then a week. Some of the strongest relationships I know of have him locked up a month at a time. Acceptance is the key to success, and I encourage you to work with her and allow her to guide you down this path.

My guy has managed to survive week long periods of being locked for over a year now. At first he was uncomfortable with it both physically and emotionally, but in time he has come to accept chastity and physically he has adapted to continuously wearing the device. Shaving his pubic hair was one of the best things we did to make the device physically comfortable. We have recently moved to a monthly release schedule and our relationship couldn’t be stronger.

Domestically, he is a dream. I can’t remember the last time I washed a dish, vacuumed, or did a load of laundry. The housework is now his job. His weak area is cooking, but thanks to youtube, he has learned some basic techniques and has actually registered for some culinary classes that I am sure will further advance his value in the relationship and his own feeling of self worth. All this has allowed me time to workout after work (I’ve lost the 10lbs that I’ve been wanting to shed for 10 years!) or catch up with friends during the week. I am now training to run a half marathon, something I could never have done with my old schedule. Happy hours were never an option because there was so much to be done at home, but now I go out once, sometimes twice a week, and don’t have to worry about coming home to a messy house. As I have mentioned in previous post, my only regret is that I didn’t discover the benefits of a locked cock much sooner This is why I feel an obligation to share an encourage this lifestyle with others. 

Of course there are other benefits and side effects that I won’t mention in this post, but rest assured once he is locked, the woman will be free to indulge in any activity that she so desires. 

And in case you’re wondering, I love him more then I ever have.    

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Contact

Hello everyone. I have gotten quite a few messages inquiring about FLR Coaching in real time. My original intent was to share the benefits of FLR’s through this blog, however, I am willing to speak with women or couples who are serious about pursuing this this lifestyle. No promises. I’m have no formal training or education in the area of relationship counseling, so I will only be sharing with you my experiences, opinions, and things I have soaked up from many years of online research. I’m not able to speak to all the single men out there, but can make time for a few women and couples. If interested, private message me and I’ll provide a secondary number that I maintain and we can go from there. 

Orgasm Denial – How Often is Up to Her!

One of the first issues that needs to be addressed when a couple first
embarks on a male chastity lifestyle is male orgasm denial and how long it should be for.

In order to adequately address this question, it’s wise to take a step back
and determine what the man had in mind in the first place when he originally
broached the subject of male chastity with his partner.

The area of male chastity can cover a lot of ground, anywhere from
permanent orgasm denial to mild chastity play. Both he and she need to decide
where on this wide spectrum their interests happen to lay.

From a man’s point of view, spending a week in a chastity device might be entirely too long. From the woman’s perspective, a month would be a good starting point, moving upwards from there.

Let’s get one common misconception out of the way from the get-go. A male
will suffer no permanent psychological or physical damage by being denied an
orgasm for a lengthy period of time. At some point, any build up in the
prostrate will take care of itself by the way of an involuntary discharge.
That’s what a wet-dream is.

For couples who prefer to spice things up a bit, there are always scheduled
prostrate milkings and ruined orgasms; erotic subjects of their very own more
suited for another time and place.

If he has in mind just some mild chastity play, then she should be prepared
for the possibility of him trying to top from the bottom along with some
bitching and whining when he hasn’t been allowed to cum for three days.

This type of high maintenance and bullshit behavior on his part usually doesn’t
make male chastity worth her time and effort.

On the other end of the male chastity spectrum, permanent orgasm denial
probably won’t be appropriate for most couples, at least not at the beginning of his

male chastity training anyway.

In reality, the man that has requested to have his orgasms denied by his
partner needs and actually wants her to exercise some firm but loving control
over the situation. He will require that his limits be pushed beyond what he
thinks he is capable of.

For example, if he agrees to go a week without any type of release, then she
should extend that time to ten days or maybe even two weeks in a male
chastity device. It’s then important that she emphatically sticks to to that predetermined time frame, with no questioning, begging, whining or recourse allowed on his part.

Her steadfast resolve will fulfill his deep-seated desire to be told ‘NO’
while at the same time will free herself of the tedious task of frequently
getting him in and out of his chastity device and then having to deal with the
annoying administration of his orgasms.

The longer the male is denied, the longer he will be able to maintain the
anticipation of sexually serving the female that he so secretly craves.

The longer the male is denied, the longer she can reap the emotional and
physical rewards that naturally come with keeping her male chaste, all the while
keeping her work-load to a bare minimum.

So to answer the question posed in the title of this article, how often
should he be allowed to cum?

Initially, longer than he thinks is reasonable. Eventually he will come to
the realization that the definition of ‘reasonable’ is best left up to her.

Orgasm denial for extended periods of time can be best achieved by requiring
him to wear a male chastity device. You can find a nice one by clicking here.

http://malechastitylifestyle.net/orgasm-denial-how-often-is-up-to-her/