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Empowered Cuckoldress

From Fetlife User @kbangz

One way in which we view our cuckolding relationship eloquently paraphrased:

“The only thing sexier than a nice, big cock is seeing my husband’s twitch helplessly for me.”

For many couples, the appeal of cuckolding isn’t to replace something missing, it’s to create a new dynamic. At the core of this experience is the empowerment of the the wife through becoming a hotwife – a sexually liberated married (or otherwise committed) woman. This empowerment is often so attractive to her because she has traditionally not been the more dominant partner in the relationship and it’s the empowerment which drives her interest in cuckolding her husband more than the opportunity to invite another male inside her.

Take one couple for example: both attractive people in their 30s, she was a tall and slender sandy blonde with breasts perfectly proportional to her frame. He was tall with athletic build and big cock. However, she explained that he couldn’t fuck her longer than ten minutes. What she say was that before she began fucking other men in front of him, he could fuck her as long as he wanted to.

So what happened? Empowerment expressed as a power exchange.

Sharing her was at first a fantasy neither one of them expected to become a reality, but once he admitted to her how much he enjoyed it when men tried to seduce her, the pillow talk and fantasies gave her a clear path to being empowered. She recognized the intensity of this fantasy for him and how it could be used to bargain his behavior and used that to negate his tendency to only take the pillow talk to a certain point of arousal before he would assert control so he could fuck her. Tying him to the sort of reclining lounge chair one finds by the pool became the only way she could explore these ideas with him without him just taking her when he wanted to. Being free to explore ideas and tease her husband, she quickly realized how certain topics, certain ideas rapidly pushed him toward the cliff of orgasm. She would often mount him, cowgirl, while he was bound to the lounge chair, and use his cock like a dildo, but even when she controlled the pace, only a few of the right words could send him over the edge. She then began hand training him – using her hand to tease him instead of riding him, hoping he’d last longer that way – somehow that got him off even faster. Now I understand why, but at the time that mad no sense to me. She became much more fascinated by her ability to have such sexual control over her otherwise dominant husband and his impressive cock than by the option to allow someone else to seduce her (or think he had).

Cuckoldress dating

It didn’t take her long to realize that she always had to give in, in the end, to get fucked, but it was a very short coupling – too short. To work around that they tried lovemaking without the teasing and pillow talk, but found that lacking. The only way to enjoy her teased male and enjoy being fucked by one was to invite another male into their marriage. Doing that meant she could fully explore stripping her husband of his sexual prowess.

Learning to uncouple the idea of being inside his wife simply because he’s erect and desires her is much more challenging for both when he’s above average, but doing so becomes twice as rewarding.

Is the phrase “rob him of his sexual prowess” still reverberating inside your mind? I know it sounds cruel to some, but done within the context of a loving, hotwife/cuckold relationship, it’s simply another way to express a submissive role on behalf of the husband and way for his hotwife to feel empowered. This energy even transfers to the boyfriend if/when he becomes aware that his play with the wife has enabled her to further the necessity of his role in their marriage.

I was told I was the third guy to play with her (them). We always played together and he was always bound to the chair, on a towel, while watching us. I usually started with her in missionary, but she always wanted to ride me so she could look at her cuckold and taunt him. He would be leaking mostly constantly and she would sometimes slip off my cock and go over to him and tease him physically in her hands or even mount him briefly before returning to me. I believe it was those moments forever captured in his mind that robbed him of his stamina. Even when alone with her and free of any teasing by her, those memories and images couldn’t be escaped. To paraphrase his wife, “The only thing sexier than a nice, big cock is seeing my husband’s twitch helplessly for me.”

They told me he only got her hand or his own while she was ‘seeing someone’, but I don’t really know if that was true or something they told me to make me feel special. She did demonstrate how easily she could make him spurt – rather like the video below, though he was already quite erect when she started.

This is obviously not an actual couple (porn couple), but the situation is valid and mirrors what I experienced with my second couple. I was little more than a living dildo for her and we really never had much of a gf/bf kind of thing. Even though it was hot to fuck her like that while it lasted, I’d have to say I’ve gained more from it in hindsight than I did in the moment.

I’ve talked to a number of couples who have discovered this dynamic and actively pursued it, including one just recently. Though it’s intense to consider the idea that such a shift in his sexual stamina is permanent, it’s most likely not, but while his wife feels empowered to rob him of it, that’s very likely to happen!

Converting your man to a House Husband in a Female Led Relationship

Why The Rising Trend Of House Husbands And Their Working Wives Is Here To Stay

Original Article: https://www.bollywoodshaadis.com/articles/rising-trend-of-house-husbands-and-their-working-wives-2903

We have heard the terms- “stay-at-home wives”, “soccer moms”, “trophy wives”, etc. But what would be your expressions when we say, “stay-at-home husbands”, “soccer dads”, “trophy husbands”?

The Female Led Relationship Trend

With women sharing equal workplace responsibilities, they no longer allow their dreams and careers to wither after getting married or having a family. With gender equality triumphing, now when a couple is blessed with a child, the possibilities are noted, odds are measured, and worth is weighed, and only then it is decided who will take the burden of financial responsibilities and who will take over the household ones.

No more does a ‘house husband’ mean that he does not bring a pay cheque home. With technological advancement and numerous ‘work from home’ opportunities, many fathers are working from home, as well as taking care of their family. Similarly even artists, designers and writers work from home. The best example that you can find in our modern India, is the world-renowned, best-selling author Chetan Bhagat who is a happy stay-at-home husband. While his wife Anusha works full-time and has a very successful career, he quit his well-paid bank job to care for their twin sons and concentrate on writing.

Now, as more and more women are getting opportunities to explore their potential to its limit, in many cases they do come out to be the better financial option amongst the two partners. Being the better choice, they go out to face problems of the outside world while their men stay indoors to tackle the household problems.

Women looking for a House Husband

Women are much more cautious than men when it comes to handling household finances and expenditures. Being good at multi-tasking, a mother is better at handling certain problems, such as spending time with family, segregating family and work spaces, making necessary monetary sacrifices, and setting a budget, which in most cases a working man might fail to achieve.

Male Chastity for the House Husband

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Benefits and Perceived Risks of “House Husbands”

  • A man sacrificing his career to give his woman a chance to realise her dreams is a message of equality. For far too long, women have suffered unfairly the conventional ideas of being “just a homemaker”, and sidelined their ambitions. It is now time for a change.
  • As we said before, women are much more careful when it comes to unnecessary expenditure and budgets. Women taking the financial burden of the family only means strengthening the family’s financial backing.
  • In many modern families, where both parents are working, kids are often left with maids or at day cares. This means, an additional burden on the family’s finance. With one parent staying at home, the expenditure of extra help can be avoided.
  • When couples swap the traditional roles of being the “breadwinner” and the “homemaker”, they begin to respect each other more. They understand the responsibilities and pressures that these roles bring with them. Once a man takes to the household chores, he respects the women around him much more.
  • Whether he becomes a househusband by his choice or through circumstance, socially this idea is still looked down. This leaves many men feeling powerless in their home as well as in the society.
  • When a man turns into a house husband due to certain unfavourable circumstances, it leaves him feeling weak and depressed. He links his “worth” to his inability to provide for his family’s financial needs. Economic dependence at times, leaves a man’s masculinity shaken as well.

Our suggestion to you ladies, talk to your husband openly without making assumptions of what they, or others, will say. You never know your Mr. Right might surprise you with his understanding and compassionate nature!

Milf looking for FLR and House Husband

I get a lot of emails from men asking how they can get their wife or girlfriend interested in a Female Led Relationship. Although there is an abundance of information out there – I found this article posted on a wonderful site: http://www.femalesupremacy.org/

This is some good information for you wannabe subs to peruse – Enjoy:

No matter how much you think that she is obedient, modest or conservative, under her innocent shell lies a real woman who is ready to take control of her man.

It’s time to stop dreaming and start living. Her strength and talent are closer than you think. Women do not have to learn how to be dominant, so it is inborn. It’s pure instinct. In our male polluted society, however, it has been redesigned to put women down, “in their place” to the detriment of all life on earth.

Women’s natural instincts, long muted, are being reborn everywhere. These days, there is no woman lacking this hidden power and if I may, to be released as soon as you find yourself recognising her an unstoppable dominant goddess, without losing sight of her humanity. This hidden feminine power must be supported and released only slowly. Like the beast must first feel the blood before they learn to attack, her latent superiority must react to your male submission in order to come out and take control. Once regaining the life power, she will not want to return back.

If you are in a serious relationship and ready to assume a submissive role, be prepared for what can come. The Lady you love, is in fact the goddess of your dreams, standing in judgement of you every day. What does she see? A male filling his role of usefulness to her, or a lazy pig male making demands upon her body and life energy?

The transformation starts slowly, don’t pounce on her with your greedy pig male needs, release your submission by action and deeds, not demands. It can be difficult for her at first to take her place as the head of the relationship, because women have typically been brought up to obey, taught that they were inferior to men since birth.

As the “softer sex”, their softness and fragility was mistaken for weakness as well as a man’s strength and size has been mistaken for authority. While it is true that most men are physically stronger, women are uniquely intellectually, emotionally and sexually the superior gender.

Although most women do not realise their power, those who have discovered it, realise they have full power and can manipulate a male until he is begging for more. As such, for a man it is much easier to desire and seek out dominate women than for a woman to seek out a submissively minded man. This explains why men are willing to travel hundreds of kilometres to invest large sums of their resources to experience authoritative female power in person.

However great an experience with a professional dominatrix may be, it will never replace the intimacy of a relationship with a girlfriend or wife in a female led relationship. And there she is, her latent dominant nature is waiting to be embraces through your selfless acts of love and submissiveness.

But don’t think its simple to release her instinct just by presenting materials on this topic! Much too cold and clinical, this approach is almost always certainly discouraging. What you want is to excite her by yielding to her, while not being some gormless worm begging to be beaten. Think of it as an act of seduction.

As your relationship grows, with you focused on the female of the species, soon you will notice that she naturally begins making many dominant decisions. Gradually she puts herself into this role and only then will be much more amenable to experimentation with things like bondage and discipline.

And remember, the art of seduction begins with kindness. You have to treat her like a goddess. She is your queen and must be treated as such, even without saying as much. In daily life go out of your way to fulfil her every wish as if she really was your goddess, because she is. Women are the goddesses of us all, the creators of life.

Your duty is to act as a generous helpmate, humble and always subordinate. If you are angry or arguing, you have to let her win. If she says jump, you ask how high. You should not only be obedient to her wishes, both expressed and implied, you must also take an active role in making her feel like a princess, in other words, very special. Always.

Offer your assistance at every opportunity. If you see her sitting down, and are aware that she’s had a long day, sit down next to her, take her legs into your hands and ask her if she would like a foot massage. In the house, strive to take care of everything, but remember that there are some things she might enjoy doing herself. Its no special deal for you to make it your duty for washing the dishes, cooking dinner for her or removing the trash.

Without expectation of reward, wash the floors, clean the windows or wash her car. Do everything what you think that evokes a feeling in her of superiority and being served.

It is also important that you feel an emotional connection during this time. You are not a servant, but a male (one and the same in my world). She loves and respects you, so be worthy of that love and respect. If she asks, why have you begun behaving so nicely, simply answer that you do it every day more and more to show your love.

Tell her that you want to make her happy. Tell her she’s your everything and that she deserves to enjoy life to the fullest. Be nice, but do not push it. Also, surprise her always with romantic gestures. For example, it should be a regular thing to bring a small gift of flowers or some such thoughtful item of beauty. Into her handbag quietly slip a small confession of your love.

My favourite is when my boy surprises me with a romantic bath, serving me wine in the nude and tending to my every need. Its so simple to do, all you need do is to prepare the bath, help her disrobe, holding her hand when she is entering the tub and then gently massage her body with a soft sponge while basking in her beautiful glow. Nothing pays tribute to my beauty like seeing him with “my” penis full erect as he serves me in the glow of the candles as my favourite music plays. Then when he wraps me in a fresh towel while helping me out of the tub and into the bedroom, where I let him worship me with his mouth.

As you romance her with your submission, gradually she will begin to get used to it, and expect it. You will then have the opportunity to advance to the next step. For example, if massaging her legs, you can start to kiss or lick, making sure to look at her with your eyes to ensure she approves. It will soon be ready to take additional care.

You can continue this approval process as you evolve into a fully blossomed female led relationship.

This process takes time and gradual changes, the need to work hard to reach this point. If it is too forced by your sad male ego, you risk a negative reaction. If everything is done correctly, she will soon get used to all her needs being satisfied by your desires to fulfil her every desire.

At this point, your submissiveness transfers into the bedroom at all stages. Whatever your love of traditional sex, make sure she enjoys her position as queen. Ask her if she would like you to get her a vibrator. As with all Sex Toys, introduce gradually without violence and only upon her request and permission. Remember that these items are here to help you in what you do, not to replace you. You must always start with the touch of a kiss. Your goal is to change your perception of intimacy to reach a point where you start to understand sex as a means of her pleasure primarily.

At this moment you begin your true submission.

You’re holding back your own pleasure, and she’ll respect you for it. Out of love you will encourage her to enjoy herself fully. Here comes another important moment: always ask permission to enter her. Offer her your pleasuring services and she will want embrace your naturally submissive role.

Soon she will realise that now she controls not only her own, but also your enjoyment. When she offers to satisfy you, you say “Yes Ma’am, please”. It will feel very grateful and full of love. But you must always ask for permission before you do anything that would bring you sexual climax. Always ask her permission to peak, and obey her reply. Let her embrace her complete control over your ability to orgasm.

Take her shopping, even online, for sexy lingerie. Ask her if she likes how it looks and let her know what excites you. Whether she wants a tight leather skirt, or something lacy, accept her choice and praise it. Tribute her beauty by encouraging her shopping, enjoy it, you will only have more fun in the bedroom.

Once your loving submission is fully accepted, you can try to explore more deeply your submissive fantasies, always let her lead, and always be truthful and honest with her. If at any moment you feel a negative response, apologise and let her lead. You must not hurry. You should know better than anyone else what was going on in her head and you have to be careful not to push too much on her. Some women will respond faster than others, but all have the same hidden potential. Just keep doing what you’re doing.

The longer you persist, the more likely she will embrace her new role. The more comfortable you will feel it, the more it will promote change within all aspects of herself. Soon she will think it was all her idea and you will be living the life beyond the dream.

First let me credit http://newlychasted.tumblr.com/ for these two images.

This is the Bon4M chastity device. I can tell you it is top of line and designed for long time wear. Everyone knows that male orgasm control/denial is the cornerstone to a successful Female Led Relationship and when you are ready to get serious about pursuing the lifestyle, this is one of two devices I can heartily recommend based on our firsthand experience. Although pricey, it is well worth the investment. Made of 100% stainless steel, your boy will appreciate the comfort. Note how a rubber band or hair tie is used to secure the lock in case he is self conscious about the lock clanging on the steel. 

The Bon series of chastity devices can be purchased here. http://newlychasted.tumblr.com/

Shaving and emasculating a locked man

I believe it is imperative that a man in chastity should have his pubic hair trimmed. There are several reasons for this.

1 – His chastity device will be much more comfortable and easy to put on and take off, if pubic hair is trimmed. His whines of “it uncomfortable, it’s pulling my hair” will no longer be valid. 

2 – Shaving a man’s pubic region will further emasculate him and keep his male ego in check. 

I believe only women should have more pubic hair then their male. It stands as a sign of womanhood. Naked male genitals show a sign of surrender to the Female.

3 – Appearance. A properly groomed man is far more pleasing to the female eye. 

See some examples below. Once you have your man locked up and all trimmed up it is strongly encouraged that you snap a picture. Hopefully you will share it with us! You can also use it to blackmail him if he starts getting on your nerves. 

“Honey, I would really hate to have to show (insert a female friends name here) that pretty picture of your locked cock”

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