I get a lot of emails from men asking how they can get their wife or girlfriend interested in a Female Led Relationship. Although there is an abundance of information out there – I found this article posted on a wonderful site: http://www.femalesupremacy.org/
This is some good information for you wannabe subs to peruse – Enjoy:
No matter how much you think that she is obedient, modest or conservative, under her innocent shell lies a real woman who is ready to take control of her man.
It’s time to stop dreaming and start living. Her strength and talent are closer than you think. Women do not have to learn how to be dominant, so it is inborn. It’s pure instinct. In our male polluted society, however, it has been redesigned to put women down, “in their place” to the detriment of all life on earth.
Women’s natural instincts, long muted, are being reborn everywhere. These days, there is no woman lacking this hidden power and if I may, to be released as soon as you find yourself recognising her an unstoppable dominant goddess, without losing sight of her humanity. This hidden feminine power must be supported and released only slowly. Like the beast must first feel the blood before they learn to attack, her latent superiority must react to your male submission in order to come out and take control. Once regaining the life power, she will not want to return back.
If you are in a serious relationship and ready to assume a submissive role, be prepared for what can come. The Lady you love, is in fact the goddess of your dreams, standing in judgement of you every day. What does she see? A male filling his role of usefulness to her, or a lazy pig male making demands upon her body and life energy?
The transformation starts slowly, don’t pounce on her with your greedy pig male needs, release your submission by action and deeds, not demands. It can be difficult for her at first to take her place as the head of the relationship, because women have typically been brought up to obey, taught that they were inferior to men since birth.
As the “softer sex”, their softness and fragility was mistaken for weakness as well as a man’s strength and size has been mistaken for authority. While it is true that most men are physically stronger, women are uniquely intellectually, emotionally and sexually the superior gender.
Although most women do not realise their power, those who have discovered it, realise they have full power and can manipulate a male until he is begging for more. As such, for a man it is much easier to desire and seek out dominate women than for a woman to seek out a submissively minded man. This explains why men are willing to travel hundreds of kilometres to invest large sums of their resources to experience authoritative female power in person.
However great an experience with a professional dominatrix may be, it will never replace the intimacy of a relationship with a girlfriend or wife in a female led relationship. And there she is, her latent dominant nature is waiting to be embraces through your selfless acts of love and submissiveness.
But don’t think its simple to release her instinct just by presenting materials on this topic! Much too cold and clinical, this approach is almost always certainly discouraging. What you want is to excite her by yielding to her, while not being some gormless worm begging to be beaten. Think of it as an act of seduction.
As your relationship grows, with you focused on the female of the species, soon you will notice that she naturally begins making many dominant decisions. Gradually she puts herself into this role and only then will be much more amenable to experimentation with things like bondage and discipline.
And remember, the art of seduction begins with kindness. You have to treat her like a goddess. She is your queen and must be treated as such, even without saying as much. In daily life go out of your way to fulfil her every wish as if she really was your goddess, because she is. Women are the goddesses of us all, the creators of life.
Your duty is to act as a generous helpmate, humble and always subordinate. If you are angry or arguing, you have to let her win. If she says jump, you ask how high. You should not only be obedient to her wishes, both expressed and implied, you must also take an active role in making her feel like a princess, in other words, very special. Always.
Offer your assistance at every opportunity. If you see her sitting down, and are aware that she’s had a long day, sit down next to her, take her legs into your hands and ask her if she would like a foot massage. In the house, strive to take care of everything, but remember that there are some things she might enjoy doing herself. Its no special deal for you to make it your duty for washing the dishes, cooking dinner for her or removing the trash.
Without expectation of reward, wash the floors, clean the windows or wash her car. Do everything what you think that evokes a feeling in her of superiority and being served.
It is also important that you feel an emotional connection during this time. You are not a servant, but a male (one and the same in my world). She loves and respects you, so be worthy of that love and respect. If she asks, why have you begun behaving so nicely, simply answer that you do it every day more and more to show your love.
Tell her that you want to make her happy. Tell her she’s your everything and that she deserves to enjoy life to the fullest. Be nice, but do not push it. Also, surprise her always with romantic gestures. For example, it should be a regular thing to bring a small gift of flowers or some such thoughtful item of beauty. Into her handbag quietly slip a small confession of your love.
My favourite is when my boy surprises me with a romantic bath, serving me wine in the nude and tending to my every need. Its so simple to do, all you need do is to prepare the bath, help her disrobe, holding her hand when she is entering the tub and then gently massage her body with a soft sponge while basking in her beautiful glow. Nothing pays tribute to my beauty like seeing him with “my” penis full erect as he serves me in the glow of the candles as my favourite music plays. Then when he wraps me in a fresh towel while helping me out of the tub and into the bedroom, where I let him worship me with his mouth.
As you romance her with your submission, gradually she will begin to get used to it, and expect it. You will then have the opportunity to advance to the next step. For example, if massaging her legs, you can start to kiss or lick, making sure to look at her with your eyes to ensure she approves. It will soon be ready to take additional care.
You can continue this approval process as you evolve into a fully blossomed female led relationship.
This process takes time and gradual changes, the need to work hard to reach this point. If it is too forced by your sad male ego, you risk a negative reaction. If everything is done correctly, she will soon get used to all her needs being satisfied by your desires to fulfil her every desire.
At this point, your submissiveness transfers into the bedroom at all stages. Whatever your love of traditional sex, make sure she enjoys her position as queen. Ask her if she would like you to get her a vibrator. As with all Sex Toys, introduce gradually without violence and only upon her request and permission. Remember that these items are here to help you in what you do, not to replace you. You must always start with the touch of a kiss. Your goal is to change your perception of intimacy to reach a point where you start to understand sex as a means of her pleasure primarily.
At this moment you begin your true submission.
You’re holding back your own pleasure, and she’ll respect you for it. Out of love you will encourage her to enjoy herself fully. Here comes another important moment: always ask permission to enter her. Offer her your pleasuring services and she will want embrace your naturally submissive role.
Soon she will realise that now she controls not only her own, but also your enjoyment. When she offers to satisfy you, you say “Yes Ma’am, please”. It will feel very grateful and full of love. But you must always ask for permission before you do anything that would bring you sexual climax. Always ask her permission to peak, and obey her reply. Let her embrace her complete control over your ability to orgasm.
Take her shopping, even online, for sexy lingerie. Ask her if she likes how it looks and let her know what excites you. Whether she wants a tight leather skirt, or something lacy, accept her choice and praise it. Tribute her beauty by encouraging her shopping, enjoy it, you will only have more fun in the bedroom.
Once your loving submission is fully accepted, you can try to explore more deeply your submissive fantasies, always let her lead, and always be truthful and honest with her. If at any moment you feel a negative response, apologise and let her lead. You must not hurry. You should know better than anyone else what was going on in her head and you have to be careful not to push too much on her. Some women will respond faster than others, but all have the same hidden potential. Just keep doing what you’re doing.
The longer you persist, the more likely she will embrace her new role. The more comfortable you will feel it, the more it will promote change within all aspects of herself. Soon she will think it was all her idea and you will be living the life beyond the dream.
