Tag: malechastity

When I began his chastity training, we tries a multitude of devices. In all, over a year’s time, we probably spent over a $1000 trying to find the perfect device. Overall security was a must. I didn’t want him to have the ability to slip out of the device and cheat. Our relationship almost immediately changed for the better. The only downside to most of these devices were they couldn’t be worn long term, which was becoming more and more of an issue for me. Inevitably his complaining of discomfort would result in me unlocking him, which I hated to do. I did what I should of done a long time ago. I went to Google and literally did hours of research, read reviews, and even corresponded with like minded keyholders. The goal was to find a secure device and could indeed be worn for days at a time. Money wasn’t an object, as this was an investment in our lifestyle that would likely pay dividends for many years to come. No use on scrimping in this department. All my research led to about three devices that were consistently well reviewed by those with first hand experience. I settled on the above device – behold, the Bon 4M! As far as chastity devices go, it was near the top of the price scale, and rightfully so. The decision was made and on a lazy Saturday evening I found myself in front of my laptop, his credit card in hand, ordering this piece of sheer genius. $200 and 5 days later it arrived. I was not disappointed. The standard sized device (it comes in a smaller size too) was perfect for our needs. It’s all stainless steel and comes with four different rings. We experimented with the largest two and ultimately decided that the 2nd largest was just right for his average size package. His previous complaints about plastic rings being to sharp around the edges were resolved. I was and still am delighted with this purchase. I would say it’s the best $200 – plus tax – that I’ve ever spent. Although I only keep him locked for days at a time, we have gone as long as a week with no irritation or other ill results. I would highly recommend the Stainless Steel Bon 4m (there are several models of Bon) for any woman looking for a long term solution to male chastity. 

I even splurged and bought this beautiful Heart shaped pad lock: https://axovus.com/Heart-shaped-Lock-w-keys.html  It comes with keys suitable for wearing as jewelry

No, I don’t work for or receive any compensation from the makers of this device. My opinions are my own and based on real life experience. 

What is your favorite male chastity device?

Another proper fitting. Nice trimmed pubic area and no room for the penis to become erect. Allow him to pick the ring first, then go one size smaller. The male will always overestimate an in almost all cases a ring one size smaller then what he considers ideal, is the right fit. Once locked, secure the key. He will soon learn resistance is futile. There is no reason that he cannot wear this long term. 

At first, many men struggle with the reality that she has chosen not to use your cock anymore. As we evolve and more and more wives make the decision to pursue a “Modern Marriage”, It’s important to remember that just because your cock is no longer allowed in her pussy, that does not diminish her love for you. She will always want and love you. In fact in most cases her love for you will go stronger. In fact, if she didn’t deny you and take better equipped lovers, she would always resent you and the marriage would be strained. By making the decision to lock and deny you,she is doing you both a huge favor and she should be applauded for making this effort. Being locked up and denied pussy does not mean she doesn’t want you anymore. While your cock is relegated to a cage, you can still please her in many other ways. In a “Modern Marriage” the husband can still do the housework and all her errands. You are also perfectly capable of proving her with unlimited oral sex and without the expectation of cumming, all your focus will be on pleasing her. This means that your oral skills and willingness to perform will improve to levels you never dreamed possible. While you were once reluctant to worship her ass, you’ll now jump at the opportunity. Your desire to please her will grow each and every day that you’re locked up. Her decision to lock you and assume the alpha role in your marriage is natural and studies show this practice is becoming more and more common in marriages where the white male is under endowed. Always remember that it is not her fault that you have a small white cock, and she should not be deprived of real sex because of it. Support her decision and make the best of the situation. Consider yourself lucky that you have the love of a strong woman, despite your shortcomings. 

Chastity and Female led relationships revolve around emasculating your man. One sure fire way to jump start his submissive side is to demand that his pubic region remain neat and trimmed to your liking. Whether you choose to trim his hair short, into a nice stripe, or shave him entirely, you, the dominant partner should always have more going on down there then him. Once your man is properly groomed, you will notice an immediate effect on his male ego. From here on out make a point to comment on how cute his little cock looks hairless. You on the other hand can strut around naked and every glimpse he gets of your womanhood will remind him of his status in the relationship. 

It’s not all bad for him though., While trimming or shaving his pubic region will surely be humiliating and emasculating for him, it will also make his chastity device much more comfortable without hair to pull <TEE HEE>. 

In my opinion anything under 7″-8″ erect should be shaved and considered inferior. Look at the pictures above and you won’t have nay trouble identifying where the power and dominance lies.  

Don’t forget to take pictures

This was his first solid week locked in chastity and the results were amazing. Just like I’ve read. I’ve locked him up for short periods of time before, but this was our first trial period for extended lock up. We started on a Friday evening. The lock snapped shut at 8pm and the only key went around my neck, to be worn for the entire week. By Sunday night the effects began showing. Yes, there was some whining, begging, and general complaining. This was expected. When it got to be to much, I sternly told him to stop or we’d begin adding time. Those words did the the trick each time.

On Monday when he complained about the device pulling on his hairs, I removed it and trimmed most of his hair off, leaving only about ¼ inch. The device went back on right after the shaving. I loved the new “neater” look and thought to myself “this is how all small white cocks should look”. By Tuesday I began seeing a remarkable difference in his behavior and overall attitude. I came home from a long day at work and found all the household chores done. The vacuuming, the dishes, the dusting, almost everything.This was unheard of. It had only been 4 days and I was already loving the results. 

We spent the entire evening watching TV while he rubbed my feet. We ended the evening with him lapping my pussy for ½ hour and bringing me to multiple over the top orgasms. This was a turning point for me. If I had ever had any doubt that locking up his cock was the right decision, those doubts were gone. All the articles and stories I read were dead on. I was ecstatic and already began plotting how I would make this “trial period” a permanent arrangement. 

The rest of the week saw him submission deepen each and every day. On Wednesday he went to his underwear drawer and found all his boxers replaced with my own panties. With the confused look on his face I crept up behind him and reached around to cup his little locked cock in my hand, I whispered heavy in his ear:

“Honey, with your little cock neatly shaved and locked away, it looks so feminine, so I thought why not take the next step and keep you in panties for the rest of your trial period”

He hesitated only briefly before picking up beautiful green selection and stepping into them. My pussy immediately became moist. I don’t think I have ever been happier in our relationship. The road we were heading down was even better then I had fantasized. I turned him around and pulled out my phone to snap a picture. I wanted this moment saved for ever. He instinctively moved his hands in front of his crotch to cover his panty clad locked cock. In my new realm of female dominance I saw this as an act of disobedience that could not be tolerated. Without thinking I physically pushed him against the wall hard. The look on my face must have been pretty angry, because I recognized the fear in his eyes. I spoke firmly and deliberately:

“Listen to me you bitch! I own that cock and I own you. If you disrespect me like that again you’ll buy yourself another week in lock up. Is that clear?”

“Yes ma’am, I’m sorry” was his only reply.

I slapped his face hard. “Don’t forget who is charge here!”, i said as i fondled the key that hung from around my neck.  I took the pics I wanted. 

He meekly nodded in agreement. The lack of fight he put up was telling. HIs submission to my verbal and physical attack was feeding my already growing feelings of power and dominance. My emotions were running high and it felt like another milestone moment in our journey towards a Female Led Relationship was unfolding right before me. 

I was caught in the moment. Already dressed for the office I quickly removed my pants and threw him on the bed. The events that had led up to this had my pussy sopping wet. I mean I had just slapped him in the face and called him a bitch, and he did nothing. 

I mounted his face and began grinding out an orgasm. He didn’t resist. I don’t think he could have if he wanted to. My thighs were clamped around his head and my pussy was ravaging his face. 

“You understand you’re my bitch now don’t you?”

“Yeth” all I could hear from under my hungry pussy. 

I lifted up for only a second: “What are you to me”

“I’m your bitch” Came his immediate answer.

Perfect I though to myself. I finished and quickly for dressed again and headed off for work. 

On my drive in I thought about the scene. First the humiliation he must have felt when I announced that he would be wearing women’s underwear from now on. Then the humbling emotion when I physically pushed him into the wall and slapped his face, before forcibly queening him. Then finally the pictures of his locked, shaved, and pantied cock. I imagine he feared what would happen with those? Who would I show them too? 

At this point I knew that this is what I wanted. I wanted this trial period too become a permanent lifestlye. We would both be happier, it would improve our relationship and deepen our love for each other. Studies have shown this to be true and my own experiences reinforced this.

On Friday I spent most of the day at work reading more articles and guides on building a loving Female Led Relationship. Saturday morning, the time we had designated for his release, was coming up and I really didn’t want this to end. Why would I? 

  • I hadn’t had to do any housework all week. My bitch did it all
  • I got waited on hand and foot at night
  • Foot rubs and worshipping every night
  • And all the oral sex a girl could handle.

It was perfect. If I unlocked him Saturday morning, I feared all the progress we made this week would be in vain, and we’d be starting at square one again. I just couldn’t allow that to happen. But I had given my word at the beginning that this would be a trial period. Of course I could just “Change my mind”, but what if I could make it his idea to continue?

Friday night is here and and my perfectly behaved caged man is at my side. All the housework done, pretty panties covering his weak little white dick. I’m wearing my tightest pajama bottom and stroking his cage, over the panties, and asking if he’s excited about it being removed tomorrow? Of course he is. I’m whispering in his ear how much I’ve enjoyed this week and how I feel we’ve made tremendous strides. His cock is straining against the cage. I tell him he can take of the panties. His cock is oozing with precum. I reach down and wipe a drop of with my finger. I raise my finger to his mouth and he obediently sucks it dry. 

I tell him to get on his knees while I remove my pajama bottoms. Constantly reminding him that tomorrow is his big day. I lay back down on the couch, and much like the past week, ask him if he’d like to eat my pussy. Of course the answer is an exuberant “YES”. He begins to approach, but I stop him. “Maybe you should have to wait?”

I turned over and guide head to within inches of my ass. I let my cheeks brush his face and his lips. “How would you like to worship my ass instead?”. 

“I’d really rather eat your pussy”

“That’s not an option tonight” I kept my tone friendly but decisive.

“If that’s my only choice then of course I want to worship your ass”

I should point out that in 4 years together, he has never properly worshipped my ass. I think most women who are not in a Female Led Relationship are missing out on this very pleasurable experience. Another reason to chastize your man and make him your bitch. 

I brought his face to withing an inch of my ass before stoppng.

 “If that’s your only choice? No, you have a much tougher choice to make now bitch. How bad do you want to worship this ass in your face?”

I was stroking his cage. Precum was furiously leaking out. I knew what the answer would be. He was in a frenzied state and would do or say anything. 

“Please let me lick your ass”, he begged

Here was the moment of truth: 

“Okay, I will let you do that, but in return you have to agree to go one more week in chastity. The choice is yours. You can say no and we’ll stop the teasing tonight and let you cum tomorrow as planned”

During this whole discussion his face was an inch from my ass. I felt each breath against my exposed cheeks. 

“I’m sorry honey. I know this is a tough decision. I know how badly you want to lick my asshole, but you also have been waiting to cum tomorrow. You can only have one, what will it be?”

No immediate response. After a few seconds I said “You’ve got 10 seconds to decide”

HIs breath hastened. I began counting down. I got to five then I felt it. His lips on my asshole. Oh my god! I’m overwhelmed! A week ago there would be no chance of him ever eating my ass. Now he’s giving up an orgasm to do it!

“You know what this means honey?”

He murmured a yes as his tongue began exploring my ass. 

“Oh baby, I’m very happy with the decision you’ve made. Look at how far we came, and now we have another week to go. I love you my bitch”

I was triumphant. He truly was my bitch and we were on our way to a fulltime FLR. I was true to my word. He didn’t get the privilege of eating my pussy that night, but all efforts were directing at pleasing my previously neglected ass. How humiliating. How degrading. How truly loving. How humbling. I lost track of time as I fell into and out of bliss. 

A locked man truly will do anything.